Things Not to Tell Your Partner Before the Wedding

In recent weeks, we’ve written some blog posts about managing friends and family members to avoid difficult situations. Weddings are large affairs, with many people involved, so being tactful is essential to making sure that everything goes smoothly. It won’t come as a surprise to anyone that it’s important to be tactful in dealing with your wedding guests. However, something you may not have considered is that sometimes this need for tact extends to your future husband or wife.

If you’re in the midst of planning your wedding, you’ve already learned that it’s a challenging and sometimes stressful endeavour. This is true for both bride and groom, as they’ll both be equally invested in making sure the big day goes according to plan. You may find at times that both of you are fully absorbed in organising separate things. In these situations, a little tact is required to avoid stressing your partner out unnecessarily, so that they don’t lose sight of their own tasks. In this week’s blog post, we’d like to mention a few things that you shouldn’t tell your partner about.

Don’t Tell Your Partner About Everything That Goes Wrong

Weddings take a lot of work to get right. As you plan yours, there will be more than a few setbacks and mishaps. When something goes wrong, your priority should be to fix it as quickly as possible. Your partner will be absorbed in his or her own duties, so it’s best not to cause any distractions. If you need your partner’s help, of course you can ask for it, but avoid doing so if possible. Have you lost your engagement ring? Find it without alarming your partner by announcing that it’s missing. Did one of your suppliers cancel at the last minute? Book another before telling your partner. Your partner will appreciate that were able to resolve the matter yourself, while he or she was able to focus on other things.

Your Partner Doesn’t Need to Know How Much You Spend on Everything

Of course, when planning a wedding with your partner it’s important that you both agree on the budget. For the largest expenses, you should both be fully informed and make the decisions together. However, sometimes it’s best to keep it quiet if you end up going out of budget on some of the smaller expenses. Perhaps there was something out of budget that absolutely had to have, so you funded the difference from your own pocket. Or perhaps there’s something you know your partner would really love, but be hesitant about paying for. If you decide to break the budgetary rules in such ways, keeping the truth from your partner can help to make the wedding more enjoyable for both of you.

Your Personal Goals Are Just That, Personal

In the months leading up to a wedding, may peope will set certain goals for themselves, often in relation to health and fitness. This is certainly not a bad thing. Being fit and healthy will certainly help you to look and fell your best when your wedding day arrives. However, when we set such goals for ourselves, we often find they’re more difficult to achieve than we realised. This is something that happens to most of us, and it’s perfectly fine. It’s also a private matter. Perhaps you promised your partner that you’d adopt a certain exercise routine or diet. If you fall of the wagon, there’s no need to tell anyone. The only person you need to satisfy in these matters is yourself.

If You Dislike Something Your Partner Loves, Stay Quiet

This last one is easily the most important. Your wedding day should be the happiest day of both your lives, and no doubt you want to make sure that your partner has the best day possible. You may find that, no matter how much you love each other, your tastes don’t always align. You may find that your partner has chosen something for the wedding that fills him or her with joy, but which you find is not to your taste. Show a little kindness and just stay quiet about it. If you voice a negative opinion, it may detract from your partner’s enjoyment. By not mentioning it, you’re allowing him or her to enjoy your wedding to the fullest.

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